The Wisdom Of Humbling Up

Most will know the following saying: how one word or a sentence can change your life when you need to hear it the most. This can happen out of the blue when you're out shopping for your favorite ice cream, at the mall, or walking along a busy street. The words "Humble Up" came to me the other day when listening to one of my favorite adored authors and teachers, Caroline Myss.

A no muss no fuss kind of gal who remains the Goddess of modern-day wisdom. Humble up is right up there with another saying that comes to mind with a chuckle, reminding me of a time and place in the past, when I had to buck up, power through, and stop clutching my guest service pearls in shock while learning the ropes as a cruise ship passenger coordinator guiding thousands upon thousands of tourists each day.

So many times in this life one door may close with ease and classiness, while others when you least expect it ready or not when your not getting the message, a door closes with a firm and yet not so polite slam, no matter how many roads you have traveled or desires fulfilled the shut can take you by surprise and this is when the reminder of just how powerful remaining humble can be.

Humble up is a mix of grace, courage, self-respect, and dignity. Humility has nothing to do with being humiliated, it is not all soft and fuzzy or found by being passive, it means you have the smarts and wisdom to get on through and not care a hoot how others perceive or think of you. It allows us to not loose our way to false pride and big expressions of gallantness when nothing is working yet takes the sting out of all false pride.

The Humbling Up Factor, How It Works & Helps

· When one door closes on an opportunity you thought had some steam, the wise will reach into their bag of tricks, it may even mean calling up an old workplace and see if they could use your expertise or back to other work you know you can do and allows you to remain financially self sufficient, this is humbling up in action kids.

· If one’s pride goes pre-Le fall, then at times too much pie in the face from resistance will surely inspire you to humble up and add more gratitude to your day and seek the lesson and teaching in all things like the wise Buddha.

· As I have taught successfully with passion in a few of my more popular seminars. Humility does not mean you leave the door open to be humiliated, humility is the sister and brother to having true self worth and self respect.

· If you work with people one on one or with large groups, cut yourself some slack on those days where things just fly off the rails and no amount of effort is making things work, this is where you get to remind yourself, that life is never done in a smooth line or has to be perfect, the humility part here invites self compassion to not take it all so personally.

· Be brave and look within when the ego has been driving the bus and not to any place worth staying, then it is literally time to surrender all the controls without any over thinking or any self judgement, which will then guide you into the next chapter that is welcoming and inviting and not more drama.

The last time I saw my fabulous one-of-a-kind mother, Miss Doris, taking her hand in mine on the edge of her bed in the retirement home, telling her I was sorry for any pain or worry I may have caused her in this life, ensuring to say all I needed to so there would be no regrets and I have none as she passed shortly after that visit.

Humility and love were at the center of that moment, I did not care anymore that this woman never did apologize for anything that I can recall, though at times I wish she had. Yet in her own humbling up she admitted a few things that she felt guilty about regarding certain things that happened in my youth.

This held my heart and taught me big time what it means to be loved, that she did not miss anything, moments like these do not ever leave you, they answer questions without words and continue to teach, they come when needing a reminder of just how powerful humbling up can be the answer when faced with so much uncertainty.